From our friends over at Fierce Marriage Becoming one. There is so much depth in that concept—and so much joy in pursuing it. Yet, modern culture is not naturally inclined toward "two becoming one". Individualism and the popularity of self discovery place priority on "me" and "my wants". These are not to be our priorities in marriage. Marriage is profound in this way: when we commit to another so deeply as in the marital covenant, each takes on needs of the other as their own